perfectionism trauma healing : 7 Gentle Ways to Stop Performing — Design a Space That Loves You Even When You’re Not Perfect? I’ll show you how to break the link between achievement and self-worth by designing a home that accepts you, flaws and all. Using ideas from trauma-informed care, environmental psychology and soulful design, this guide explains practical room-by-room changes, rituals, and gentle rules to make space that loves you — not your résumé. 7 gentle ways to make your home love you? Do you feel your worth is measured by what you do — and that your home quietly agrees? I say this as someone who inherited a list of “shoulds” like family silver: lovingly passed, habitually polished, completely exhausting. Perfectionism has the sneaky quality of being both flattering and fatal — it convinces you that trying harder will redeem you, and then its standards keep shifting so you never quite arrive. That’s why I work with homes the way a good friend might: to noti...
In this review I examine Love is the Only Solution by Supreme Master Ching Hai — a compact, impassioned booklet arguing that love (for animals, nature and one another) is the root-cause remedy for pandemics, climate crises and social breakdown. I consider themes, style, strengths and limits, and reflect on what action-love really looks like today. Why talk about love as the only solution? ? When I first picked up the slim volume Love is the Only Solution I expected a short pamphlet of spiritual exhortations. What arrived felt more like a gentle activist’s plea folded into a spiritual teacher’s worldview: urgent, uncompromising and, at times, disarmingly simple. Ching Hai writes as someone who believes the scale of the world's pain — pandemics, climate upheaval, armed conflict, species loss — demands a radical inward change and a sustained outward compassion. I approach this book as both a reader and a mild sceptic. I’m interested in how an author bridge...