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Space Anyone?


Every individual has their own space and it is the space that has to be respected in order for a healthy relationship or atmosphere. wondering why my sudden obsession with space? well i got into an argument with mom and that reemphasized just how important space is in our lives.

When a child is being born there he/she should be nurtured and guided but once the child crosses his/her teens she should be trusted enough to make the right choices if required she can be suggested on the things she is doing, but not directly taking over his/her life and their making decisions. india it is not uncommon to hear parents exclaim "for me no matter how old you are, you will remain my baby to me" this may sound soo endearing to most but has a negative impact otherwise. once a child grows up, she should be given her space to be who she/he wants to be and what she wants to do. it is this lack of space, that often leads to the elders disrespecting the young adults that leads to so much strife within the family.

Now you will tell me why should elders respect their children? well respect is not something you demand but your attitude should be such that your personality should command respect. if we all respect one another, irrespective of age, then live is much smoother. being elders or parents it is difficult for them to appreciate or understand the youth because of their different ways, so instead that go about trying to change them. but instead if they respected the younger generation for who and what they are then things would have been much easier. it is applicable to youth respecting the elders too. if there is mutual respect and scope of space then this so called generation gap would not exist.

And this is not just applicable to parent-child relationship but to friendships, marriages and relationships too.i hope people are able to accept and appreciate each owns' want of space and respect them for everything that they are and everything that they are not.

Comments

Dialect Of Heart said…
I second that. I don't mean "giving space" as in letting the children follow their own rules blindly, and in a magnitude that children gradually become isolated from their parents. "Sharing" of physical space, time and emotions...contributes towards the Indian family system the way it is. And I love that. But I'm against over-protectiveness of a child, shielding him from decision making and responsibilities and maybe even the appropriate social interaction with others, will cause a lot of hurdles when he becomes an adult. I love the pampering and protectiveness my parents shower on me, but I also admit that it's to an extent that has limited my day-to-day life as an adult. The transition to adult life, I relied heavily on decisions others made for me, and even in everyday tasks...I needed assistance. Having had a car at my beck and call, while growing up and my parents restricting the use of public transport...I can't even travel alone nowadays or for that matter even hail a cab during rush hour traffic! There can be a lot of inconveniences at various aspects of life due to not giving the optimum "space", that we don't foresee as a child.
April 8, 2009 at 12:43 AM
Richa said…
ahh.. i too used to crib wen i was young. for space and privacy. but now, i have become used to it :D
April 8, 2009 at 1:09 PM
Tushar Mangl said…
Actuly in our Indian system, their exists a degree of selfishness.
The boy should be a momma's boy as to who is going to take care of the momma when she is old???

he love the style of dominance, as to they expect their children to stay with them and take over the family responsibilities completely.
April 8, 2009 at 1:24 PM
Tushar Mangl said…
Actuly in our Indian system, their exists a degree of selfishness.
The boy should be a momma's boy as to who is going to take care of the momma when she is old???

he love the style of dominance, as to they expect their children to stay with them and take over the family responsibilities completely.
April 8, 2009 at 1:25 PM
Si_Lee said…
at the end of the day i feel it is reason that should prevail .. regardless of the issue being discussed ... and this needs to be understood .. i have been very lucky to be born in such a family in India... I wish many more would transform ...
elders need to understand difference of opinion is not disrespect .. it is just a difference of opinion. period.
youngsters need to appreciate that the advice that is coming our way is not out of nothing but has tons of experience behind it .. give it that respect and weigh it out and then decide whether or not you should accept it.

one thing though .. that line " you shall always be a child to me" is not restricted to Indians ..
April 8, 2009 at 2:24 PM
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