LOVE AND BOUNDARIES

I was going through my favorite book of quotations. And I happened to go through a quotation on love which seemed quite interesting to me. It goes like this-

"To love someone is to isolate him from the world, wipe out every trace of him, dispossess him of his shadow, and drag him into a murderous future. It is to circle round the other like a dead star and absorb him into a black light."

-Jean Baudrillard (1929-fatal strategies)

Ahaaa!!!...you are right. It does seem to be real tragic or sorts of negative definition of love.i agree! You tend to limit yourself to your lover. Limit all your dreams and desires and ambitions. Your world starts revolving around just one person...his likes dislikes and accordingly, the adjustments you need to make in a relationship.suprisingly you even plan every second of yours according to his need...i.e.-when you both can talk, meet etc.i am talking about girls here.i have many girls as friends who claim to have got the love of their lives.i find them doing nothing except sticking to phones...going out to meet him..Buy gifts for him...write poetries for him...make dishes for him...blah...blah...blah.they have practically no time for their careers or look into their lives to see what might be missing. They neglect everyone (nearly) in social life.family, friends..I have one friend who is also doing law with me. A senior. Such a talented girl I tell you...a real iron rod when it comes to litigation. Extremely intelligent. But.....IN LOVE!!!!She doesn’t even know what she would do after two years when she completes law. She has dreams...good for her. Wants to become successful. But has got no strategy for it. On the flip side...another friend of mine...also doing law...a classmate, knows where she will be after four years. She knows what to be...and how to be...she is single you see...after all-

"How in hell can you handle love without turning your life upside down? That’s what love does...it changes everything.

-Lauren Bacall.

Ankeita Bharadwaj

Comments

shaista dhanda said…

I really like what you have posted here. But i think, it depends on the person how to tackle his / her relationship. It is stupid to be 'Just in love.' Practical approach is very important. I also want to add that 'one learn from his / her mistakes.

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