Tushar Mangl

This was a Greeting Card, Didi got me from her college trip to Pondicherry - Tushar Mangl, 18/11/2007 The card reads -  Never forget that you are not alone.  The Divine is with you helping and guiding you.  He is the companion who never fails, the friend whose love comforts and strengthens.  The more you feel lonely, the more you are ready to perceive His luminous Presence.  Have faith and He will do everything for you.  -  The Mother

Summary: In this diary entry dated 21/08/2006 , Tushar Mangl reflects on the concept of knowledge, particularly self-knowledge. He highlights the tendency of people to seek knowledge on various subjects but often neglect the crucial understanding of their own needs, aspirations, and beliefs. Through anecdotes, he explores the significance of self-awareness in making authentic life choices. Diary Entry Know Thyself - Socrates 21/08/2006 Knowledge – This is a keyword I aim to present consistently in my writings. I try to enlighten readers through humor, anecdotes, clippings, and other insights. Now, I’m even attempting to draw knowledge out of myself. Here’s a piece of advice for you: gain knowledge. There’s nothing wrong with that. Whatever subject interests you, you have abundant options—be it the internet, books, magazines, newspapers, or friends—all offering a wealth of information. However, there’s one subject that we often overlook: ourselves . My advice to all my readers is to u...

  Summary: In this excerpt from his diary, Tushar Mangl opens up about his journey through the pain of his past, his struggles with destiny, and his yearning for meaning. Through raw, introspective reflections, he examines his life, recalling his early dislike for writing and his newfound curiosity about literature. Mangl’s candid insights reveal a soul grappling with profound existential questions. 24/08/2006 What should I write today? There are so many feelings I need to discuss and review, but I can’t seem to draw the strength. One fine day, I would like to look back and recall these 19 years of life. I feel like an unlucky person, at least in my own eyes. When I look back, my eyes fill with tears. No, that wasn’t the childhood I deserved. If I have to blame anyone, it’s destiny—filled with misery, sadness, and loneliness. My life feels more like a punishment. Each day I live, I end up wishing for a quick death. The past has never been good, the present holds nothing, and the fu...

This diary entry by Tushar Mangl reflects on the communication dynamics within traditional Indian families, comparing them with Western practices. Mangl discusses the lack of open communication, especially between parents and children, in Indian families, which often hinders younger family members' confidence and decision-making skills. He advocates for involving children in family discussions to build stronger bonds, increase understanding, and encourage personal growth. August 8, 2006 In traditional family settings, especially in India, speaking openly, especially against the head of the family, is seen as disrespectful. Any attempt to question or challenge family decisions is often met with disapproval, labeling the speaker as a “batmize” (Hindi term for disrespectful), making open communication even harder. When family members cannot express themselves freely, it creates an environment where effective communication is stifled, limiting personal development. Hierarchical structu...

It is perfectly fine to appreciate people for who they are. But let us face it—settling for mediocrity when you can recognise someone’s potential to be better is not an act of love. It is like having the world’s most fertile soil but never planting a seed. Why would you allow someone you care about to stop growing when you know they have the capacity for so much more? True love is not about promoting complacency; it is about challenging those you love to rise above mediocrity and become the best version of themselves. So, why not inspire greatness, invoke change, and push them to blossom? Is it possible to appreciate someone while pushing them to grow? Why should you challenge someone you love to be better? How can recognizing someone’s potential lead to positive change? Can complacency in relationships stunt personal growth? How do you inspire someone to embrace change? What role does fear play in resisting growth? Why is change a constant and unavoidable part of life? How does promot...

  Ek Mohabat Woh Bhi Jo chah ke bhi keh na sake tum Jo varjit thi, jo namanzoor thi Jo asambhav thi Jiski sharam na keh sake tum kisi ko Na jaan saka  tumhara koi aziz jiske baare mai Ek mohabat woh bhi Woh ashiqi jo dil ki diwaron mai dafn ho gai Nazaren jhuka ke,  Dil ko thukra ke, Ek mohabat woh bhi Jo kabhi bayan na hogi, Jiska na koi wajood, Na koi kahani hogi Bas dil pe zakhm ki ek nishani hogi Ek Mohabat Woh Bhi - Tushar Mangl 

Writing has been an integral part of human history, serving as a means of immortalizing one's thoughts or a source of livelihood. However, regardless of its purpose, writing should always be treated with reverence as it is a vital part of our existence. Creative writing, in particular, should come from the heart. While it can be learned and copied, the essence of creativity lies in writing from the most profound thoughts and sentiments. There are countless ways to channel one's creativity towards writing, but the ultimate goal should be to write from the heart. Writing is not just a job or a business. It is a passion. With passion, one can truly become a good writer. The inner voice that urges someone to write is a guiding force, leading one to explore the significance of writing to their being. Writing has no boundaries and can take us down a road that was set apart for us even before time began. Creative writing is not just an art. It is a devotion and an instinc...

  If we look outside, in the deep horizons of clear skylines, we will see a Nation brought to its knees by a tiny virus, so tiny that it's invisible to our eyes. Next time, we look down upon someone who is poor, or demean someone for lack of his/her education, ostracize someone because of their income, let's remember this moment.  We might grow haughty for our shiny designations and stature in society. We might stand tall for our bank accounts and share capitals, but we should never disregard those we think beneath us. Who might be younger than us, inexperienced or just less privileged than us. For this day reminds us that we might be a Goliath in many forms, nature still can spring up a David on us. Lesson for us today, in those empty streets and a standstill economy is of Humility.  To be Humble is important. To never intoxicate ourselves of whatever we achieved is important. And it's important that we realise that nothing small is insignificant or unimportant...

                                           The other day, I read these lines by Shuvam, about how work culture transforms into a company's true identity. It resonated with what I have been saying for a long time now. People pick up jobs for all the wrong reasons whereas they should first look at a company's culture. I recall a few months, someone came to me for a career related advise. The said person had a job offer in hand and wanted to switch. Now if you have been doing this for long, that is handing out advise on any matter whatsoever, you already know the drill. The guy will ramble a little about how its the end of the road at the current organization, then go on about the offer in hand, and subsequently lay down the fears. Mostly, its about validation. Most of the times, the person has already made up his/her mind. They will tell you about the benefits, the timings...

Its been a while since I last blogged and readers have been inquiring as to whats happening. I last posted here in September, but their had been trouble in life since August. Things peaked up in October and are finally setting down.  This time has given me more space to introspect as to how easy it is for people to disappoint you. You sometimes don't even expect anything great out of them, and it turns out that they still manage to disappoint you. With their negativism, insecurities, they still manage to scratch your soul and try to harm your inner peace. I have long believed that its during time such as these you see the real faces of people around you. How many would be happy to be at your side and how many will jump ship, gives you a clarity of what is happening around you. I seldom expect from people. Humans have a predictable tendency to betray and be thankless for what they gain. I am a positive person who portrays an awful indifference to abuse or hurt....

Its so easy to turn things sour in a relationship. In the society I see around me, trust deficit is rampant, communication, meaningful communication that is, almost scarce and ego larger than ever before.  No wonder than, it takes very little to ruin a friendship, a relationship or any association with a few words of bitterness. But I was thinking last evening, how stupid it sounds, if I see the larger picture. Consider P & R. Lovers from past few years. Live in together. Had a horrible fight the other day, compelling R to move out of the apartment. You and I will on surface, think of it as a routine lovers tiff or some misunderstanding or an ego clash. It turns out that P shouted at R and one thing led to another and hell broke lose. Happens all the time. Even would be happening in some corner of the World as I write this. What we never are able to see the larger picture. The larger picture contains the circumstances around which both individuals are evolving. The ci...

I have been staring at this blank screen for some time now, thinking what to write. Words usually come to me, quite easily but off late their has been a drought. I am yet stuck on what story to write next, even though I have several ideas stuck in some unknown part of my heart. My health has taken a big beating in 2018 and off late, I have really gotten weak and frail for unknown reasons. My vitals are healthy and my diet reflects how I am in pink of health.  Looks like I am going to miss both my books targets. Reading 100 books a year and writing at least 1. But the good part is, we still have a few months left in 2018 and lot of life in me, to achieve my targets.  The good part of being down, and I love this part, is to see the people around you, lifting you up, motivating you, cheering you up. Its as if the dark phases have an unusual glory to them. When you know, someone has been your side., you know they will be their when light comes in. Those who didn't give a...

I was talking to a colleague the other day, B, about how love and friendships are best done at school. Their is a certain level of pureness, a simplicity, a lack of awareness about the other person. You just click, with another person. I feel, its like a jigsaw puzzle thing. Two pieces just join and if they don't fit, easily separate away. Growing up, people start accumulating baggage. We start becoming more aware about the society, perceptions and most importantly the importance of having a stereotype of a friend. Like, someone who is good for my career, or someone to vent out, or someone to share liquor with. We start forming our friendships (its an over abused word, friendship if you ask me but that we will discuss another day) according to set parameters. Like its good to have a rich friend and not good to have a too poor friend. Sudama and Krishna do not happen in 2018.  Slowly as we grow and ease into our society, parameters keep piling up. Even in educated, wel...

                                            Coffee Musings   Musing about my morning coffee the other day, I realized, the right balance of flavors, companionship & conversations can make the simple coffee taste great. I mean we all know that, but still the thought struck me the other day as I had a delightful cup of coffee. I like morning coffee for its fuel like effect. My typical workday starts with a cup of coffee. I was discussing this with my cousin, some years ago who was on a trip to India. We were discussing our work over coffee and he remarked how he likes to have a cup of coffee before starting his work day. Ditto, I remarked. A cup of good coffee just sets the right mood. In my present workplace, we have this nice Coffee Machine, way better than the powder mix coffee machines so prevalent these days. It uses real coffee beans and mil...

I love giving advice. I have this theory that if someone can benefit from an experience I have had, then why not? Good information is always a positive aid. At least that is what I believe in. People love and hate me for that. Love for  the difference I have made. Hate for the overabundance of good advice.  I mean, everyone wants an advice. But how many are ready to accept it in totem? Everyone likes their own version of customized, made to order advice.  No one likes the straight as a tequila shot variety. They want you to add that syrup, that juice, that spirit and place the right umbrella or a lemon wedge on the top of the glass.  I however, give the straight, honest advice with the bitter truth as a garnish. Anyways, whats the point of taking advice if you are not even interested in following it? It's disrespectful to the other person's intelligence when we ask for an advice and conveniently dispose it off like a tissue paper at lunch.  I am no...

With Instagram gaining all those plentiful eyeballs and high user attention, no wonder that it is becoming a medium of choice for both budding photographers and brand marketing professionals. With your work in public domain, which is accessible to millions of users world wide, potential for abuse or misuse is natural to happen. Repost is becoming once such act of misuse widely much to chagrin of Igers who are putting in a lot of effort for their picture content. So what is a repost? As the name suggests if someone reposts your Insta post it is termed in as a repost. Is it a good thing or a bad thing? Depends on various things. Many people are just setting up accounts based on reposts to gather top quality content (from various great Insta accounts). The idea is to build a large following with minimal efforts. This is obviously quite disturbing for those who have put in efforts on their Insta accounts. Their are many Igers who take their Insta accounts quite seriously. ...

I am blessed truly, I believe because I am growing wiser as I grow old. Not many people reach there. One of the perks being an expert in multiple fields of communication is that I am called upon to conduct workshops or keynotes on topics ranging from blogging to what not. And they all call me sir. Not only who those attend or organize these workshops but generally too, so many people seek me out for advice and they are like Sir or Tushar Sir. And honestly speaking, I am always unsure about how to react to this. We in India grow up as Britishers taught us like for 100 years . Sir, Ma'am is ingrained in our psyche. Even though the Britishers themselves use the term as honorific title generally knighted upon someone. I have no doubt people do call me Sir with respect, but in our modern times is the prefix (or suffix) relevant? I worked in an MNC where everyone called each other by their first name.I moved on to an Indian Startup where we have a mixed bag of people half...

I know I haven't been writing too often and 2017 was just a dull year on the writing front. I finished with Hey Honey Bunch last year this time, and haven't written anything exciting ever since.  The year is passing by and it's almost over.  It has been a good year as far as workshops which I have conducted, which have been quite well received and I have met many warm people in due course and I swear, when they write back to show their new blogs or any positive feedback, it softens my heart and touches my mind too. Now that I want to focus back on my writings, I might cut down on the workshops. Let's see where the path leads to. On the personal front, like I wrote above, met loads of new and awesome people this year, especially over workshops and due socializing. We introverts are a sad minority which no one wants to acknowledge or accept. It is like you are afflicted with a disease and everyone should feel sorry for it. Still, to go out and come across so...

Its not about religion, it is about environment and life. Sitting in their diesel guzzling SUVs and Sedans, honking horns, relentlessly people type on social media and mobile about the pollution level on Diwali. They even show concern for dogs and cats while parking that huge car in a place where once there were trees. All that is acceptable to the hypocritical Indian, and it is only on Diwali, suddenly this wave of environment love is born. For the smoke and  noise of crackers has ruined one of the most beautiful festivals of our country. The citizens are oblivious to the fact that the smoke and the sting is a sharp reminder of the fact, that how much we take our environment and nature for granted. India has a remarkably great tolerance for environment degradation which is evident from a visit to any of our cities. You see mindless chopping of trees for that extra car, wall to wall roads for the traffic, sharp reduction in green areas so that our burgeoning popul...

For past few days, this app is going viral. Its called Sarahah a weird name if you ask me for a messaging app. Its key USP? You send messages anonymously. Like those chits of paper you passed in middle grade at school. No one knew who wrote them but you could guess already. As it happens with everything internet questions are being raised over the sanity of this thing. After all, if my friend or a well wisher cannot give me a constructive feedback on face, is that feedback really worth it? Also, their is this whole negativity being peddled in the name of feedback impacting minds and causing issues.  I registered on the App the other day and received just 6 messages. 2 were vile rants, 1 was a GOT spoiler and rest words from friends. I have sent umessages to other friends mostly whom I am close to and sent them a message just for the sake of it. If I need to give you a feedback, I can give it direct. But can I? I know so many people who ask me feedback all the time. Be...